Porn and Pancakes
Posted by Dan on 07 Dec 2006 at 03:42 pm | Tagged as: Life
I’ve had several conversations with guys lately about their struggles with lust and porn. It’s a serious issue that is hard to talk about for a lot of people. I really appreciate the way xxxchurch.com has brought the topic more out in the open. Some friends of mine were able to attend “porn and pancakes” put on by “xxx church” last week and said it went really well. Hopefully we can have more talks at Riverview to help guys who are struggling with this issue. Until then, here are some tips:
1. Confess To God I really believe that since our relationship with God is in fact a RELATIONSHIP, that it is appropriate to let him know.
2. Confess to Others Find someone with some spiritual maturity who will continue to ask about your struggle.
3. Run Don’t pretend that you are tough enough to stand up to temptation yourself. The model that you see in Proverbs is run. I think Drastic Measures should be taken in many cases. If you need to get rid of the internet, then do it. If you need to relinquish keys to a building, then give them back, if you need to put accountability software on your computer then, go for it.
Here are a couple resources to help:
1. x3watch accountability software from xxxchurch. It’s free and easy.
2. Covenant Eyes which has even more powerful accountability software and many other good resources to help people who struggle.
One last thing that I’ve been thinking about is that wives really need to be cared for and helped to understand, because I think for many women this is a struggle that is somewhat foreign to them. Does anyone know of any good resources for women?
i think there are many women who struggle with this addiction and for them, XXXchurch has a women only site at http://xxxchurch.com/index2.htm. for resources regarding dealing with spouses of someone who struggles, these sites seems pretty good
http://www.pureintimacy.org/cs/couples/
http://www.porn-free.org/spousehelp_christian.htm
http://www.blazinggrace.org/healingforwives.htm
this is such a huge sink hole in many peoples lives. and the minute you fill up one hole, you’re struggling to keep yourself from falling into the next. it’s a daily struggle for a lot of folks and i think it’s time to start facing the ‘dirty’ addiction in the face instead of turning our backs on them. thanks for posting this. i think we need to get craig gross and the gang to riverview for a service. it’s not just college boys doing this. it’s our fathers, mothers, sisters, brothers, friends, little league coaches, teachers, pastors…it’s time to start lobbing off the crap in our lives and help others heal.
sorry…i’ll shut up now…thanks Dan
alright…so the xxxchurch link didn’t work. women who are struggling, go to
xxxchurch.com
click on ‘get help’
click on ‘just for women’
Thanks for all the links Kim! Good stuff.
Just in case you’re interested, there’s another porn and pancakes meeting in late February near GR. Check out the site if you haven’t yet…
Oh yeah, that site is http://www.pornandpancakes.com
http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com